By Shawn Parr
“This is a conversational slap from the universe to wake you up to your true potential, to unf*ck yourself, and get spectacularly into your life.” -Gary John Bishop
A conversation with Gary John Bishop is like therapy for your ears and a gin and tonic for the soul. It’s like talking to the official voice of Scotland — smooth, raspy, humble and matter of fact. Just plain smart. His down-to-earth, no-nonsense book, Unfu*k Yourself, feels like an authentic conversation with a knowledgeable best friend who wants the best life for you but also holds you very accountable for your actions. Bishop offers seven personal assertions that guide the book and serve as actionable takeaways to apply to life.
Although his book is about using the right language to improve your life, Bishop makes it clear that he is NOT suggesting you suddenly take on positive thinking or personal affirmations. This book is specifically designed to give you an authentic leg up and propel you into greater levels of your true potential. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. But if you’re a sucker for smooth melodic accents, the Podcast is a must.
7 assertions from Unfu*k Yourself
1) I am willing.
“Stop blaming luck. Stop blaming other people. Stop pointing to outside influences or circumstances.”
When you start to view the world through the lens of what you’re willing and unwilling to pursue rather than what it seems you deserve or want, things start to become a lot clearer.
2) I am wired to win.
“The truth of it is, you are winning at the life you have.”
You are winning in whichever domain you are playing in — you’re wired to win in that domain. What it takes to move out of that domain is going to require some significant changes to your subconscious.
3) I got this.
“Everyone has their problems, and life isn’t always perfect. It never will be.”
Bishop encourages being brutally honest with yourself, and in doing so, reality unveils that our problems are pretty insignificant compared to the rest of the world’s. Persist until you can see the whole course of your life, and realize that your current problems are just another bump in the road.
4) I embrace uncertainty.
“Uncertainty is where new happens.”
People tend to seek the certain and avoid the uncertain. We want to be prepared. Bishop encourages embracing uncertainty. Doing so has the power to transform your life — from your personal relationships to your career. You’ll no longer be hiding from life — you’ll be living it, drinking from it and enlivened by it.
5) I am not my thoughts; I am what I do.
“You are not defined by what’s inside your head. You are what you do. Your actions.”
It’s when you challenge your body and mind, when you face your fears and when you accomplish and fail that change who you are. You could be the smartest person in the world, but that doesn’t mean a thing if you don’t take action.
6) I am relentless.
“Our biggest successes are born out of discomfort, uncertainty and risk.”
Relentlessness has one direction — and that’s forward. The only option is to keep the momentum going. The key to becoming relentless is to focus on the problem in front of you. Give it your full attention. The answer is always out there (you just need to find it).
7) I expect nothing and accept everything.
“Stop doing all that shit you know you shouldn’t be doing, and start doing all the shit you know you should be doing.”
This simple assertion gets you out of your head and powerfully into your life — out of your thoughts and into your reality. It’s about quieting the mind and allowing yourself to act with power in the situations of your life, rather than succumbing to your internal and external upsets.